‘RUOK?’ is a brilliant idea to open up communication and give people permission to be honest with others about how they’re not coping at all with life.
It tries to get deep-down below the cool, calm exterior that many people can portray, even when they’re dying inside. It tries to throw a lifeline to a person who feels like they’re drowning, even though they look like they’re waving.
But the problem with ‘RUOK?’ is that it’s usually limited to how people are coping in this life, not in the next.
It focuses on how people are surviving on Earth, and not whether they are prepared to meet Jesus, their maker and judge.
But if we don’t think about the life that is to come, then we’ll help people survive their days on Earth, but we won’t prepare them for the after-life of Heaven or Hell.
So, keep asking people ‘RUOK?’, but maybe you should also ask “RUOK with Jesus?”, as we should also ask ourselves.
For as Jesus said, “What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?” (Matthew chapter 16 verse 26)
If you’re struggling with mental health issues then please tell others that you’re not OK, and let them help you to return to health.
But regardless of your mental health, take this moment to consider “RUOK with Jesus?” for he says:
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew chapter 11 verses 28 to 30)